Many people become depressed because they feel like they do not fit in anywhere. They can have black and white thinking in that if they do not have any friends or are not close with their family, they cannot fit in anywhere. There is always somewhere for you to belong as long as you are open to opportunities around you and know that you are not alone in the quest to finding your own people.
Find Similarities in Others
Depression has a tendency to make you see the negative more than the positive. You are spending too much of your time focusing on what makes you different from everyone. Instead, focus on the similarities in your social circle. For example, if you feel like an outsider in your family because everyone is older than you, use that as a way to get to know each other by listening to stories they have want to tell you about their experiences at your age and what the world looks like now from your perspective. You both may be able to learn from each other and respect each other’s differences without engaging in conflict.
Look for Opportunities
If you are not close to your family and are still looking for a group that you can call your own, find clubs around you to join. You can make an account on MeetUp and try to find groups based on your interests whether you are looking for someone to go to the movies with, someone to make arts and crafts with, or if you just need someone to talk to. You can even find volunteering opportunities to meet people as you all unite for a worthy cause. By looking online or in your area for events where you can reach out to socialize, you will be able to find your people.
Keep an Optimistic Attitude
Finding a sense of belonging needs to go both ways. You want to belong, but you need to be honest with yourself in that not everything will be perfect. For example, if you already feel like backing out of the MeetUp because you do not like the food they are serving or it is noisy, do not think about that. You are not there for food or the location, but to meet new people. By keeping an open mind towards the people you encounter, you will find where you belong.
Located in Draper, Utah at the base of the beautiful Wasatch Mountains, Corner Canyon works with adults who are over 18 struggling with mental health diagnoses like depression, anxiety, trauma, bi-polar, and other mood disorders seeking treatment. Corner Canyon offers advanced technology to help their clients such as brain balancing technology to better assess the brain for those with PTSD and artificial intelligence to process therapeutic data to deliver a personalized treatment program for all clients. For more information, please call us at 866-399-3469 as we are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Cheryl has a 24-year history of founding and managing treatment programs for adolescents, in addition to providing therapy for them and is now excited to work with adults at Corner Canyon Health Centers. Her own treatment experiences informed the development and implementation of the foundational components of Corner Canyon, and she looks forward to directing a program that meets all the expectations she had while in treatment and includes all the therapeutic practices that she has found to be effective throughout her career.
In 1998 Cheryl co-founded Second Nature Wilderness Program, which grew to be the largest private wilderness therapeutic program in the United States and included 5 separate locations. Cheryl also helped found Gateway Academy, a pre-eminent residential treatment program for adolescent boys, and looks forward to working with the Gateway Academy owners at Corner Canyon.
In 2003, Cheryl was elected by her colleagues throughout the United States to serve as a board member for the National Association for Therapeutic Schools and Programs. Cheryl works clinically with addiction, mood disorders, anxiety, trauma, family systems problems, and other co-occurring issues. She loves working with clients the most out of all the different roles she has played. Cheryl completed her education at Brigham Young University where she received her Bachelor of Science in Psychology and Sociology in 1991 and her Master’s Degree in Social Work in 1993. Her clinical training included CBT, DBT, Motivational Interviewing, Assertive Communication, and providing individual, family, group therapy and marriage counseling.
Cheryl is the oldest of ten children and has two adult children, a daughter and a son. Her interests include water sports, photography, interior design, household projects, and spending time with her family and friends. She loves house boating on Lake Powell, but her favorite pastime is spending time with her 5 wonderful grandchildren.