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How To Help A Partner With Depression

Sara Sorenson, LCMHC

Clinical Director

Sara grew up in the US, then Germany and the UK, returning to the United States to attend university. Since then, she has lived in Maryland, Hawaii, Australia, and Utah, and enjoyed visiting many beautiful places in between. Sara has a genuine interest in people and truly enjoys making connections wherever she can. She is constantly looking for new things to learn and areas to improve in both her personal and professional life and appreciates the challenges that contribute to progress. She is drawn to adventure in all it’s forms, particularly in nature, travel and creative expression. Often, her most significant source of joy comes from spending time with her close friends and her four children.

Sara received a Bachelor’s degree in Sociocultural Anthropology and a Master’s in Rehabilitation Counseling. She is certified as a rehabilitation counselor (CRC) and a licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC). Sara’s counseling experience includes working with individuals from a wide range of ages, backgrounds and mental health symptoms and disorders. Sara has worked extensively with foster children, sexual abuse victims and people with addictions.

Sara is trained and certified as an EMDR therapist and is passionate about facilitating the level of healing and insight that can be uniquely achieved with this approach. She also has experience with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Art Therapy. She finds it most effective to address individual needs and preferences with the creative integration of theory and application, with a focus on helping a client identify and move towards their unique meaning and purpose. She enjoys working as a team with the client to explore where they are now, where they would like to be, and how they can get there!

Sara worked as Corner Canyon’s clinical director for a few years before moving into the role as Clinical Development Manager. We are so excited about the expertise she continues to bring to Corner Canyon to help us continue to grow and advance, and provide the highest quality of care for all of our clients.


Sara Sorenson, LCMHC

Clinical Director

Sara grew up in the US, then Germany and the UK, returning to the United States to attend university. Since then, she has lived in Maryland, Hawaii, Australia, and Utah, and enjoyed visiting many beautiful places in between. Sara has a genuine interest in people and truly enjoys making connections wherever she can. She is constantly looking for new things to learn and areas to improve in both her personal and professional life and appreciates the challenges that contribute to progress. She is drawn to adventure in all it’s forms, particularly in nature, travel and creative expression. Often, her most significant source of joy comes from spending time with her close friends and her four children.

Sara received a Bachelor’s degree in Sociocultural Anthropology and a Master’s in Rehabilitation Counseling. She is certified as a rehabilitation counselor (CRC) and a licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC). Sara’s counseling experience includes working with individuals from a wide range of ages, backgrounds and mental health symptoms and disorders. Sara has worked extensively with foster children, sexual abuse victims and people with addictions.

Sara is trained and certified as an EMDR therapist and is passionate about facilitating the level of healing and insight that can be uniquely achieved with this approach. She also has experience with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Art Therapy. She finds it most effective to address individual needs and preferences with the creative integration of theory and application, with a focus on helping a client identify and move towards their unique meaning and purpose. She enjoys working as a team with the client to explore where they are now, where they would like to be, and how they can get there!

Sara worked as Corner Canyon’s clinical director for a few years before moving into the role as Clinical Development Manager. We are so excited about the expertise she continues to bring to Corner Canyon to help us continue to grow and advance, and provide the highest quality of care for all of our clients.


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Depression can be one of the most challenging things to help someone with because, given the “dark” headspace of depression,  they are often not very responsive to help from others. Yet, one of the most important things you can do for your loved one is simply reassure them that you are there. 

Yet that isn’t as simple as it sounds is it? Shame at “not feeling myself” is a central emotion in depression, and your caring support can help them feel validated. Read on to learn more about how you can support someone with depression.

Recognizing the Signs of Depression in Your Partner

Although you will likely notice if your partner is feeling “blue” or “down”, depression goes well beyond that. It’s important to recognize the type and signs of depression in your partner. There are several types [1]:

  • Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) typically comes and goes with the arrival and departure of winter, with mild symptoms. Often called “the winter blahs”
  • Major depression includes symptoms of depressed mood or loss of interest, most of the time for at least 2 weeks, that interfere with daily activities. A fairly dysfunctional state
  • Persistent depressive disorder (also called dysthymia or dysthymic disorder) consists of less severe depression symptoms that last much longer, usually for at least 2 years. Milder than major depression but it wears you down consistently with little joy in life
  • Bipolar disorder involves depressive episodes, as well as manic episodes (or less severe hypomanic episodes) with unusually elevated mood, greater irritability, or increased activity level. Very serious impact in both phases. Medical attention is required promptly

For the purposes of this article, I’ll refer to the signs of major depression [1] [2]:

Psychological Signs:

  • Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
  • Feelings of irritability, frustration‚ or restlessness
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities

Cognitive and Behavioral Signs

  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
  • Withdrawing from family, friends, or social activities
  • Neglecting responsibilities at home, work, or school

Physical Signs

  • Fatigue, lack of energy, or feeling slowed down
  • Difficulty sleeping, waking too early in the morning, or oversleeping
  • Changes in appetite or unplanned weight changes
  • Physical aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause that do not go away with treatment

More Serious Symptoms

  • Severe impairment in day-to-day activities, social relationships, or occupational performance
  • Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide, suicidal planning, or attempts

Ways to Support a Partner With Depression

Although it may feel overwhelming at first to support someone with depression, there are a number of specific things you can do to help that make a huge difference [4] [5]:

Learn About Depression

Depression has many shades and can be challenging to understand well. Do some reading and watch some videos to learn more about the illness and about ways to help.

  • Educate yourself: Depression is not just “feeling sad.” It’s a complex medical illness with emotional, physical, and cognitive symptoms 
  • You are their partner, not their therapist: Provide love, stability, and practical support. You can’t “fix” them. Let the diagnosis and treatment be for the medical professionals. Your support is a critical part of their recovery ecosystem, but it’s not the only part
  • Don’t take it personally: Their emotions and behavior are the depression talking, not how they feel about you
  • Be patient: Recovery is not a straight line, with good days and bad days. Progress is usually slow, with setbacks. Your steady, patient presence is invaluable

Practical Ways to Offer Support

This is the most powerful tool you have as it opens the door for relational healing and your partner knowing “I am not alone”.

  1. Communication: Listening Without Fixing

It all begins with patient, close listening and then heartfelt sharing.

  • Be an empathetic listener: Instead of offering solutions, just listen. Validate their feelings
  • Say things like: “That sounds really difficult,” “I’m here with you,” or “I get that you feel this way”
  • Ask open-ended questions: Instead of “Are you okay?” which invites a “yes/no” answer, try “How are you feeling today?” 
  • Be reassuring: Remind them you love them and are there for them, without demanding a response. A simple text like, “Just thinking of you and I love you, no need to reply” can mean the world
  1. Practical Support

Depression can make even small tasks feel overwhelming. A partner can make a big difference:

  • Help with daily tasks: Do things without being asked. e.g., “I’m going to handle groceries and dinner today”
  • Gently encourage basic self-care: Help them maintain a routine
  • Suggest a short walk together. Invite them with “I’d love some company on a walk” rather than “You need to exercise”
  • Offer to make a simple, healthy meal together
  • Encourage a consistent sleep schedule by going to bed at the same time
  • Encourage sticking with treatment. Help your partner remember to take prescribed medications and keep appointments
  • Accompany them to appointments: Offer to take them to therapy or a doctor’s appointment and wait for them. This reduces the burden of going alone
  1. Emotional and Relational Support

This level of support, connecting on an emotional level, is very healing as it affirms to your partner who you are as a loving person, and in return mirrors who they are as they begin to regain their self-concept and positive feelings about life.

  • Stay connected, even in small ways: Depression leads to isolation. Gently bridge the gap
  • Sit with them in silence while you read or watch a calming show. Your presence alone is comforting
  • Offer physical touch (a hug, holding their hand) if they are comfortable with it. Sometimes words are too much
  • Find small moments of joy (without pressure): Don’t plan a big, overwhelming outing. Instead, suggest watching a funny movie, listening to a favorite album, or looking at old photos. Keep it low-key
  • Help them challenge negative thoughts (gently): Depression lies. You can be a voice of reality
  • If they say, “I’m a burden,” you can say, “I choose to be here with you because I love you. Supporting you is not a burden to me”
  • Avoid arguing. Instead, offer a compassionate alternative perspective

What Not To Do When Your Partner Has Depression

Sometimes it’s hard to know what not to do as it can feel awkward for some to see your partner depressed and “not being their old self”. Don’t take their depression personally. It’s not a reflection on you.

  • Avoid saying: “Just think positive!” “You should get more exercise,” or “But you have so much to be happy about.” This can feel dismissive
  • Give ultimatums: “Snap out of it or I’m leaving.” This only increases shame and anxiety
  • Blame Them: Don’t use language that suggests it’s their fault or a choice
  • Try to Cure Them: You can’t. Your goal is to support, not to cure

Note about possible suicide: Don’t ever ignore if they express any thoughts of suicide. Take any talk of suicide or self-harm seriously. Ask directly: “Are you thinking about hurting yourself or ending your life?” This does not put the idea in their head. If they say yes, do not leave them alone. Call a crisis hotline (988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or go to the nearest emergency room.

Taking Care of Yourself While Supporting Your Partner

Your self-care and healthy boundaries are key. It can be draining to support a partner with depression. You cannot pour from an empty cup and caregiver burnout happens to the best partners.

  • Set healthy boundaries: Protecting your own well-being so you can show up as a better partner
  • It’s okay to say: “I love you and I want to support you, but I don’t have the capacity to talk about this right now. Can we take a quiet break and come back to it after dinner?”
  • Protect your own sleep, social life, and hobbies. You are an individual too
  • Practice stress management: Walks, exercise, yoga, swimming, etc
  • Seek your own support: You need a space to process your own feelings—frustration, sadness, fear
  • Talk to a trusted friend: Or a family member
  • Seeing a therapist for you. It’s a place to vent and develop healthy coping strategies
  • Look for support groups for partners/family members of those with mental illness
  • Do things for you: Create your own joy and fulfillment to look after your well-being

How Corner Canyon Health Centers in Utah Can Help

Treatment for mental health conditions and trauma is available in Utah. Are you or a loved one looking for a compassionate space to heal from anxiety, trauma, PTSD, CPTSD, other mental health conditions, or addictions? Our licensed trauma-informed professional therapists and counselors at Corner Canyon Health Centers can provide compassionate help using a range of therapeutic and holistic techniques. 

Reach out to our Admissions team now at Corner Canyon. We’re in a peaceful setting bordered by the beautiful Wasatch Mountains.

Sources

[1] National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). 2024. Depression

[2 ] Sawchuck C. Depression (Major Depressive Disorder). 2022. MayoClinic.org.

[3] Wolff J. 2022. Supporting a loved one experiencing depression. MayoClinic.org.

[4] Bernstein S. 2023. How to Help a Depressed Spouse. WebMD.

[5] Lee I. 2021. What to Do When You Love Someone with Depression. National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI).

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Liz is originally from lush green Washington State. She is a life enthusiast and a huge fan of people. Liz has always loved learning why people are the way they are. She moved to UT in 2013 and completed her bachelors degree in Psychology in 2016. After college Liz worked at a residential treatment center and found that she was not only passionate about people, but also administration. Liz is recently finished her MPA in April 2022. Liz loves serving people and is excited and looking forward to learning about; and from our clients here at Corner Canyon.
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